Good Enough Just as You Are
Well here we are hurtling towards the end of January already. How are those new year resolutions holding up for you? After the excesses of the holiday period we often feel the need to cut back and eat a little lighter and this is normal body wisdom. We instinctively know that after feast comes famine.
But the crazy world of marketing taps into this time of year and there are endless promotions for products tempting us into extreme cleanses, detoxes and diets. It’s hard to avoid all the unrealistic media images of what you “should” look like and soon we start to feel helpless and believe the messages that we are not OK just as we are, that we should dislike ourselves and be working to change ourselves. We stop listening to our own body wisdom and hand our power over to all the experts. And when we fail, because the goals were unrealistic to begin with, we dislike ourselves even more.
A phrase I heard recently made me smile. “For every expert, there is an equal and opposite expert”. It certainly seems that way with the endless, overwhelming diet and nutrition information overload we are now exposed to. Low carb, high carb, eat fat, don’t eat fat, do this, do that, and very soon we don’t know what to do at all. Study data can be made to say whatever the study outcome wants depending on how the data is interpreted … and all the time we are no longer listening to our own bodies. Absolutely, there are some well-intentioned, well-educated folk out there with reasonable information to share. There are also a lot of less well-intentioned people who are only interested in the contents of your wallet.
Don’t misunderstand me – detoxes and cleanses have their place but the cold winter months are not really a suitable time to do an extreme cleanse and you may want to consider leaving these until the warmer spring months.
Neither am I saying that you should not try to lose weight if you have legitimate weight to lose and it will improve your health. But we really need to reintroduce some reality and step away from the crazy media images, the crazy diet-industry designed to make you feel bad about yourself.
So what if you think you need to lose 5lbs, 10lbs. These are small goals. Constantly obsessing about your weight makes you small and takes away from who you really are as a person, what you can offer the world. Your real big goal is to find what your purpose in life is, what you are here to do. Don’t cheat the world by only focusing on those little goals.
So many of us put our life on hold until we have lost the weight – “I will do/be/have [fill in the blank] when I have lost 10lbs”. The “real me”, my “real life” starts some distant time in the future. When you weigh 10lbs less, or whatever the arbitrary number is, you will still be the same person with the same problems, you are already the real you. The only way you will make lasting changes is to address your inner world, what is in your heart and mind, and dealing with the problems you have. Having a perfect body guarantees you nothing.